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ehhh.. i misspled the word.. can someone somehow edit!.. no edit feature really sucks!!!

As much as I hate playing games, I usually give it at least two or three days before calling. The only thing worse than someone who doesn't call is someone who call too early/too often. You definitely don't want to look too needy or weird.

You met her on Saturday? Calling today wouldn't hurt..

Call her today.

You know what, I don't think there should be a waiting period at all. If you two both seemed interested in each other, enough to get a number, I would have called her the next day.

She's obviously expecting your phone call, so I just don't see a need to wait days on end when both of you are anticipating talking to each other anyways.

I think calling too soon would be the day/night of, after that, I think it's all good.

Yeah, wait a day or two at least. You don't want to seem clingy or desperate, obviously.

You can also look at it the other way, and if you gave your number to someone hot. You would be expecting them to call, so if they called the next day after you giving your number out, would you think they were desperate?

I'd find it a little much, doesn't matter how hot. I'm not one to be constantly attached day in, day out, though.

To follow up, if they didn't call I'd be semi-disappointed but semi-interested. They'd be on my mind constantly "will they call, was it good enough, do they think i'm awesome" and once they call it's a fun relief. ;-)

Fair enough. I only used the "hot" thing because nowali mentioned, so "big interest" might be a better term.

sorry.. I meant hot as in I am crazy about her.... I just liked her so much for some reason...

anyways.. I am going to call in her in about 40 minutes once I get out of work..
and hopefully she picks up cuz i dont know what to say in the voicemail..

"hmm we met on saturday do you remember me?"

Ugh, I hate leaving those voicemails!

I'd call the same day, cause I might change my mind in three. But if you can't pull off the line in a joking manner, maybe you should leave it alone.

Waiting 2-3 days is a fool's move. Call her if you are interested and don't try to play the cool card.

Waiting 2-3 days is a fool's move.

Word. Doing things like everyone else for the sake of doing it like everyone else... makes you like everyone else. I hope that's not the quote I'm remembered for.

I agree with Scrivs, since she gave you her number, in theory she wants to talk with you again, so I say call her now.

If she gave you a number like 765-4321 she played you. I had that done to me once a long time ago... read the number backwards, it's 1234567.

I later saw the girl again in a club and gave her hell for it. I didn't ask her for the number, she offered it, so if she didn't want to talk with me, don't give be a bogus number.

Anyway, back to you... if the number is legit, she gave you the number, you think she's "hot", so go for it.

Let us know how it turns out.

I'd wait one or two days, 4 at most.
And yeah, tell us how it went.

4 days is waay too long to wait.

ha so I called her on my way home.. and she picked up..

i said hello... this is nolawi we met on saturday... and she said she remember.. and if she could call me later..... and i said ok.. and that was my number i called from

anyways... we will see if she calls.. back...
cross my fingers...hope she calls back.. maybe she is playing it cool...

maybe Paul is right... I think i waited too long...

what you guys dont understand is that ethiopian girls... play really hard to get... for some reason! if i had called the next day...she would have thought that i was way too anxious... I had to play the games... eventhough i hate this gamething...

Well see, you left an important detail out about her being Ethiopian and that girls with that heritage play hard to get... so I guess we learn something new everyday... hey that's an official 9 rule too :)

:)

I say guys call the next day.
If she gives you hell for being needy or whatever she has issues.

No, don't take my advice, I have no idea what I'm talking about.

Hehe

veronique, you're a nice looking and witty women, so your thoughts on this do matter... not sure if you're single or not but having a real women chime in on this could help... that's right... you could be helping the self esteem of men with phone numbers burning a hole in their pockets... hehe... see, you are on fire :)

I believe in a buffer day. If we meet Saturday night, call me on Monday.

Granted, if I really like the guy, I don't care when he calls. Except if he calls later that night -- not cool.

God will give u courage!

she didn't call back yet... oh no this sucks!

Give her time....maybe she's still doing that "hard to get" thing...

Aww Sean thank you for the compliment. I am single indeed but I wouldn't say that my advice on such a topic would be good advice.

I think the most important thing is to be honest right from the get-go. If you are calling say the day after and you are afraid it might be too early, just let her know "Hi, just calling to check in on you, I hope you are okay with it, I think you're a pretty cool gal" yada yada. Whatever.

Then again, some girls play hard to get. I don't. Waste of time in my opinion. Which is also why I say the 3 days waiting before calling rule is a load of crap.

But I am me, and not anyone else, and look who's talking, I'm single afterall.

I think the "play hard to get" thing is absolutely lame. Why play the games? You're either interested or you're not, and playing games just draws things out and wastes time.

ok she never called back and i called back one more time and left a message...

anyways.. just erased her number... she is stupid... !!

Yeah, don't sweat it. You win some you lose some....

nolawi - sorry it didn't work out. :(

To the guys, I want to make sure I understand this. You like a girl, you approach her, good vibe, she gives you her number. You like the girl and you purposely wait to call her because you've assumed the perception of being clingy. Meanwhile the woman is hoping you'll call and you don't. She thinks "not interested" and gives her number to another guy - who calls. :)

I don't see why calling the next day is considered clingy. Calling all the time? Yeah, that's clingy. I don't see it being desperate. I see it as being special enough to pick up the phone and call.

Scrivs: snagging this for a ST 1-on-1. It's perfect. :)

Like you said Tyme, if a girl gives me her number and I find her interesting, I call the following day... the dating world is crazy these days and solid women are hard to find... so yeah, if I guy gets a number and he's interested, he better jump or he'll miss out because if someone like me gets that number, I'm calling :)

Sames goes for me, if I give out my number, that means I want the girl to call... I don't like wasting people's time... like I said, I've been round and round the dating world and it's rough these days, so unless you are just looking for a one night stand... step up and make that call.

Thank you Tyme! That's what I've been saying all along!! The waiting game is a bunch of crap. If a girl gives you her number, that means she's waiting for you to call.

I hate games. Whatever. If I want to call them, I call them. Screw the rules.

I think a cute text message works in between calls especially if you get busy or a bit shy. Just to let her know you're thinking of her and reminding her you exist. And then call when you feel like calling.