Do You Kiss on the First Date?
Written By MillenniumMommy on Jan. 15, 2007.
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Does it matter? Have you ever? Which date do you kiss on?

JPhill
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
If all goes well, then why not. I've done it before. As long as both parties don't feel that it's rushed and the moment is right, I see nothing wrong with that.
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Edit / Report /
I have a weird proclivity in this respect. I think my mouth is very important, because I eat with it; therefore I find kissing to be an extremely intimate act, so the answer is rarely.
joshawesome
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Generally I don't kiss on the first date. I mean, it's supposed to be laid back. I don't want to have to worry about anything like that. There have been times where I have kissed on the first date, but not often.
AndrewWee
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
As soon as I can.
As often as I can.
But seriously, I think it's a matter of personal chemistry.
If both of you have rapport, there's a definite connection and both of you are willing, I'd say, Go for it!
Rich
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
I kiss when I kiss. There is no rule or pattern - it happens when it happens.
ryanarrowsmith
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Heck yeah! :)
Well, like Rich said, it depends on the vibe. If both parties are comfortable, I don't see a problem with it. There's no official rule book on dating. You just gotta go with your gut. Or go with the wine you drank too much of.
stefani
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Ummm all the time?
sparklette
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Generally the second date onwards. Like someone said above, a first date is supposed to be casual, and in some cases about getting to know each other.
stefani
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Yes and you need to get to know if they kiss well... :)
ryanarrowsmith
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
I'm with Stef. Don't waste your time on the second date if they are a drooler. Or have bad breath.
stefani
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Or if they cram their tongue down your throat....blech.
Rich
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
You should all know I'm an amazing kisser...
stefani
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Oh my dear Rich, EVERYONE say's they're amazing kissers....:)
Oli
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Unlike Rich though, I have the certificate to prove it...
Oh no... That was a dream...
Tyme
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
When I "date" I'm already friends with the guy so I don't mind kissing him. I can't kiss a stranger no matter how cute he is. I don't do intimate things with strangers, but I don't have any issues with people who don't share my view because I realize I'm the minority. :)
stefani
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Good for you sweetie! Its just a personal choice....
Tyme
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
Thank you stefani. Amazing I do a podcast about sex and relationships lol. ;)
JustinKistner
Written Jan. 15, 2007 / Report /
I'm with Rich that it's not about kissing on the first date or not, it's about when it feels right. I've kissed girls on the first night we met, which is before an official date goes down. Then I've kissed girls for the first time after three dates. I think the biggest thing is that connecting with people usually doesn't fall cleanly into first dates and neither does an appropriate time to kiss someone. I'd say it's bad to have a rule that you won't as well as a rule that you must.
stefani
Written Jan. 16, 2007 / Report /
I agree Justin, but as a general rule, I wont go out with someone "unless" I want to kiss them... :)
JustinKistner
Written Jan. 16, 2007 / Report /
Good point stefani!
JustinKistner
Written Jan. 16, 2007 / Report /
Tyme, I call that sex with strangers. I'm usually not into, although I can think of 1 great exception. Oh man,....what a night that was. ;)
stefani
Written Jan. 16, 2007 / Report /
Friends with benefits.
JustinKistner
Written Jan. 16, 2007 / Report /
Friends with benefits are pretty damn rad. Just sayin'.
RuDdY
Written Jan. 16, 2007 / Report /
I agree with anyone that said "when the moment feels right." I have had kisses on the first date, and on the other hand, it has taken me over a month for the first kiss. Depends on the 'moment.'
avuee
Written Feb. 11, 2007 / Report /
I have kissed on the first date, and had sex too.
Ollie
Written Mar. 11, 2007 / Report /
It meant he was a typical guy and probably didn't know just how appropriate it was. I'd say he was into you because he was fine with everything else before. I would say give him another chance, but make it clear you like him from the get go to ensure you both know where you stand.
A hug is a sign of respect in my book, by the way.
ErinR
Written Mar. 12, 2007 / Report /
It's all about the vibe you have with the other person, as other people have said. I've kissed people when it wasn't even a date because it felt right.
That said, if I like a guy, sometimes it's nice to make him wait a little. Adds to the mystery. But even then, it's going to happen by the end of date #2.
anime_miz
Written Mar. 12, 2007 / Report /
I think kissing matters kinda.. guess you have to be boyfriend or girlfriend to kiss on the lips, but on the cheeks it has to be friends.. but mostly I hug my friends.
PRDesign
Written Oct. 19, 2007 / Report /
Don't set rules! Play as it needs to be.
xirclebox
Written Oct. 20, 2007 / Report /
it would always depend on the vibe of the date and the woman i was with. Sometimes there was that connection and at times there was nothing. Also depended on what as for dinner :)
vlado
Written Oct. 20, 2007 / Report /
Saw the topic and the first thing that came to mind was Kevin "Bloody" Wilson's "Courting Song"*... which was quite popular with the boys here in Australia back in the late '80's.
* Not actually the real title, but thought it safer not to throw around the expletives on my first day :) I'm sure you can find the lyrics if you google it.
LondonGirl
Written Oct. 20, 2007 / Report /
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But I am coming to the conclusion that you've much more chance of a second date if you don't.
Mat_
Written Oct. 21, 2007 / Report /
It's funny to read all of you. I see that finally, even if there is a sea or an ocean between us, it's not so different.
There is no rule for me too. The feeling, just the feeling :)
And for the one who understand, this is a sentence from a book i love ("Cyrano de Bergerac" of Edmond Rostand ):
Sorry, my english isn't good enough to translate it from french.
technics
Written Oct. 21, 2007 / Report /
kiss when the time is right :)
jauhari
Written Nov. 1, 2007 / Report /
I think its about habits :)
Sebastiano
Written Nov. 1, 2007 / Report /
itsjos
Written Nov. 1, 2007 / Report /
i havent dated in 3 years... i know i have before so i would say if it felt right i would
Josue
Written Nov. 1, 2007 / Report /
yea i do
livespermdonor
Written Nov. 8, 2007 / Report /
Sure... depends... no... why not.
I dont know about you, but I marry while impregnating over the phone. ;) On special this week for $500/ml. :D
curious
Written Dec. 5, 2007 / Report /
If you like each other then hell yes!!!!!!!!
Kissing is one of the most teasingly sexy things you can do when you have only just met someone.
It does not mean you are easy you still have your clothes on!!!
You can control how it goes and leave them wanting more.
SimplyJessica
Written Dec. 6, 2007 / Report /
I would kiss on the first date. Why not?
mugambo
Written Dec. 27, 2007 / Report /
I would say no. A snog shows that you've given in. A peck on the cheek leaves you longing for more.
dreaming_awake
Written Dec. 29, 2007 / Report /
I agree with mugambo. Also first date kiss is sort of a situation where you have given in to physical temptations. If that person is the one to be in your life then starting off physically is not that great. My opinion is from experience. But then results may vary.
sebastienb
Written Jan. 8, 2008 / Report /
I don;t usually think about it while on the date on my past dates i've always kissed on the first date, felt awkward once always ends well.
montoya
Written Jan. 16, 2008 / Report /
You gotta get to know a person before you start with the kissing!
RightOn
Written Jan. 16, 2008 / Report /
I've never "dated"... but honestly, I'm with the "moment" folks.
You can't really say "yes" because if you go on 30 different dates, by your rule you HAVE to kiss all 30 of them and honestly I've hung out with some people I've REALLY liked but not had ANY desire to go beyond "hangin".
solo
Written Feb. 25, 2008 / Report /
If I am really attracted to the person then the polarity is too strong and a kiss does happen..
Jessy1002
Written Mar. 13, 2008 / Report /
i didnt kiss my boyfriend, of a year, on our first date.....however, on the third date i was ripping his clothes off on a beach under the stars...so...i mean...maybe kissing on the first date would have balanced things out a little....