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Sleep with the sister. And the best part is it works whether you're male or female.

I acted crazy, wait.......

Quickly!

I'm not a woman but no one can ever argue with honesty being the best policy. You owe them that much, and if you're honest with them you're honest with yourself.

Easier said than done tho my friend.

Is it? There's nothing worse than being suddenly single and doubting whether what you were told was the truth or not. It gives you nothing to work on as a person and just leads to self doubt.

It may be easier to opt for a "it's not you, it's me" approach but it's not a reason for someone you respect (or at least respected once).

Sitting them down and explaining that you've been unhappy and have been thinking this for a while would help, making it clear that there's no chance of reconciliation and that it's over. If it was stuff your partner was doing specifically make sure they know, it's best in the long run.

Only if things have been AWFUL and you need a very quick exit should you find a "quick end". But if you did have some good times once then you owe it to this person to explain why you have to go separate ways.

Oh I totally agree seopher. My point being that its difficult to break it off with someone who cares and/or loves you...just sayin...

aah right. Yes, yes it is. It always will be but it will happen if the motivation outweighs the difficulty.

My point being that its difficult to break it off with someone who cares and/or loves you...

I've (thankfully) not been on either end of that so far in life, and I don't plan on it... But I would say that is more of a reason to try an explain things however difficult it is... Things like that aren't supposed to be easy.

I'm not saying that you have to succeed in showing them what's going on in your hear but it's just a lot nicer to give them a chance at understanding.

The best way to end it is the way you are fearing. It means saying that you are done and would like to move on. Most people (myself included) struggle with this because we think it will hurt the other person's feelings. But, it is worse if you are stringing them along as though they don't have the maturity to deal with separation. And, maybe they are immature, all the better to be honest with them. I second stefani's suggestion to do it quickly too.

Tell them it itches......down there.

omg Ryan, that is by far the funniest line i've heard all day....and I hear alot believe me!

hahahahahaha

The itching complaint would do it.

If that didn't work you could put poison ivy in your underwear and when the rash breaks out ask him if he had any idea what it might be. If that doesn't scare him of nothing will.

The best policy is short quick too the point and it's over.

Thanks Stef. :)

Why play games...just tell them...I am sorry but this is not working out!

I end it as honestly as possible. If its something i can't stand about him i say look guy, your on my last nerve!

I once had this guy tell me that he had to breakup with me cause he got his ex girlfriend pregnant and he had to go be a father. He said she was six months along by the time he knew about it.

Whatever!

He was lieing. I knew it. I saw her walking down the street. She was'nt pregnant. He just could'nt be a man and end it right. Luckily i had learnt how much of a loser he was. So when he told me that, i just told him I know your lieing , YOU know your lieing. Cut the bs and just be a man. From that point onwards i learn't that ending a relationship shouldn't be a humilating thing to do. Just be straight up. I haven't made any new friends out of old relationships but atleast i got true closure and have no guilt.

Start talking to her sister.

Oh please, if a relationship breakup comes as a huge shock to either party, then the releationship is either horribly flawed, or one of the parties wants to shag someone else.

I don't honestly believe in the "sit down and talk it through" method, because, well, generally at the end of a relationship both people know what they did wrong. I've never come to the end of a relationship thinking "I wonder what happened..."

The easiest way to end a relationship are the words "I don't think this is working." "It's not you, it's me" is the biggest kick in the stomach anyone can ever recieve.

There is no "good" way to end it. Whatever the case, unless it's mutual, one party is going to feel horrible about it.

But the thing is, it's got to be ended fast, from personal experience, the longer you wait, the harder it is for you to break up. There is no good time for it so it's got to be something you have to do regardless.

The thing is most guys WANT to avoid feeling horrible and I think every person that wants to initiate the breakup doesn't want to feel like the bad person. You know what?

You always will be if you're the one breaking up no matter how much you try.

So take it as it is and keep living. One day everything is going to fade and we all get on with our lives. For better or for worse, say "It's not working out" and walk the other way (as in after all the initial why's and pleading has been worked out).

@Seopher: sorry but I just couldnt resist

You're giving me the 'It's not you, It's me' routine? I invented 'It's not you, it's me'. Nobody tells me it's them not me, If it's anybody, It's me!

Just in case the relationship involves abuse of alcohol, drugs, gambling etc. there are local support groups that can provide ideas, too.

Friends, there are many ways. Just ask Paul Simon.

there are plenty of shady ways to do it... i say be honest, curse and bounce

Stop picking up the phone...

There's no such thing as the perfect break up. Just end it like you're ripping off a bandaid.

There's no such thing as the perfect break up. Just end it like you're ripping off a bandaid.

one motion, right off!