Is there such a thing as being in a romantic relationship that is free of doubts?
Has anyone had the experience of knowing for certain that their partner was "the one" without question?
Or is some semblance of doubt natural in any romantic relationship?
If doubt is normal, when do you know it has gone beyond a slight inclination and become a likelihood?

8 Comments
karmatosed
Written Jul. 26, 2006 / Report /
Well I have one. I guess why there are no doubts in mine is it's 8 years going on (3 married and 5 together). Also we are best friends that got together which makes a lot of difference to the relationship (least it's different from all my non-mates ones). I believe in fate since getting together as it definetly played a part in ours. It just fitted. I know I am very lucky having that as haven't had in past relationships and it was always a grass was greener thing.
ErinR
Written Oct. 4, 2006 / Report /
I've been in relationships where I knew for damn sure that he wasn't the one... how's that for freedom from doubt? ;)
matto
Written Oct. 4, 2006 / Report /
Doubt, which I feel is natural, is driven by expectation. Focusing on giving without receiving is the basis of most solid relationships I've seen.
Those relationships that focus on giving in order to receive tend not to be as solid.
Devin
Written Oct. 4, 2006 / Report /
I've always had doubt (two relationships). First one cheated on me and the second had no trust and now we don't talk. When I have doubt I definitely realize there's an issue..
lifecruiser
Written Oct. 4, 2006 / Report /
Yes, there such a thing as relationships free of doubts. I have the experience of knowing for certain that my hubby is "the one" without question and that right from the first day. No doubts at all. For neither of us.
If it's real love, you know it, that's my opinion. You can be rather good for each other in other relationships too, but they often ends sooner or later.
I'm not so sure that every one is lucky enough to find this perfect match, but I do wish for every one to experience this kind of happiness.
We have 100% confidence for each other, but we also have been 100% honest to each other right from the beginning, not trying to be any one else than ourselves and not trying to change the other. Accepting each other.
Always being a team that supports each other. Not falling in the trap to begin the man-woman war that always seem to be going on between couples we know.
Good luck finding the same love :-)
Tyme
Written Oct. 4, 2006 / Report /
It's possible but it takes time to make it to no doubts. I think having the doubts and working through them strengthens the foundation, builds confidence and love.
LondonGirl
Written Oct. 28, 2006 / Report /
Most people who are married tell me that they just "knew". Sounds pretty vague to me. But I keep hoping I'll recognise this feeling if/when it comes along?!
Tyme
Written Oct. 30, 2006 / Report /
LondonGirl - I'm told that often too yet so many marriages end up in divorce. I would think having no doubt leaves the door open for someone to be taken advantage of. Most people do not naturally appreciate people in their lives.