Chixe

Trust...and the ability to do the housework and keep the house clean.

What is the single most important qualty?

Accepting you're always wrong and it's always your fault.

I don't think there's like a specific list to go by when looking for a person to settle down with.

I've been with my hubby since H.S. and we've been married now almost 9 years. It still feels like that same love we had in H.S. We're very cheesy. I think squabbles & fights are normal. As long as you don't lose respect for each other. One thing we've made a rule in our marriage is not to cuss at each other. Even when we're mad. EVER. And that's worked for us. I think when you lose that respect, the love starts to fade.

The most important quality?

Honesty, Respect and lots of Communication will help maintain any love alive. =)

That's my opinion and that's worked for us.

Someone else might have a different opinion and that's ok.
What works for us, might not work for you two, and etc.

@BonitainPink

Sounds like you two have a great relationship. The not-swearing at each other rule is a good one and its one that I go by as well.

Another rule we live by regarding arguments is not to go to bed angry because of unvented frustrations. Even if it means we have to loose out on some sleep. We really feel its important to close the issue before bed, and since we both like our sleep it tends to motivate us to find a solution.

I'm giving +1 to everyone who mentions respect.

Respect. Give it. And demand it.

Believe in your spouse. Not just a bit, but with every fibre of your being. If you don't want them to succeed in anything they are attempting, ask yourself why.

Nothing should be too hard to talk about. If you cant' talk about it, ask yourself why.

Truly learn to let go the past. If one of you hasn't gotten over it, it's eating away at the fabric of your relationship.

My marriage lasted eleven years, but I am in a new relationship now. One that is more open, alive, and vibrant. My girlfriend and I talk about things - even the hard things, because we don't want (or need) any elephants in the room.

That we can talk about the hard things is yet another reason I love her so very much. Unconditional love. We might argue from time to time, but even then we love. And deeply.

I sound sappy, don't I? It's Valentines Day and she's a thousand miles away. That's my excuse.

"What makes a good husband?" screams the answer and the very thing that ticks us off...when we have a probem----we are NOT looking to men to solve it or give advice. We need husbands to just plain old hug us, offer to make a cup of tea, just BE there. That is support and respect. Anything less comes from just anyone even strangers.

we are NOT looking to men to solve it or give advice. We need husbands to just plain old hug us, offer to make a cup of tea, just BE there. That is support and respect. Anything less comes from just anyone even strangers.

This is very true, but men are preproggrammed to "fix" things. I've learned (and lots of men learn) that sometimes you can't fix it, and its best to just be there as a sounding board.

A good husband is by you glue holding you together. It's not one thing - it's being a good listener, it's knowing when to stop your partner going too far, it's knowing when to let them have space and when to hold them, when to have their back, sharing life and all that entails. A good husband is so many things it's hard to say just one and I'd not really say one is more important. It also changes depending on what your partner and even you want. Don't fall into the mistake of yard sticking your relationship against everyone elses.