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Yes, three plain evenings of fun.

I know this is absolutely insane and unorthodox, but why don't you ask him if he's interested instead of questioning it in your head? You won't ever have the answer otherwise.

Ozone 42: I considered the insane and unorthodox option but then the email conversation restored for a few days leaving more more confused.
cooper : probably I am being an ostrich with my head buried below the ground -- but your parting statements are not I will see you soon etc etc when you want it to end. Knowing that we will be meeting in future meetings. Why would he not end it cleanly ? and then go back and initiate contact ? That is what confuses me ? brings me back to the unorthodox option

It is difficult to tell people something they don't want to hear. I'd venture a guess that he's not interested in anything more than the occasional hookup, but he didn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you as such. Therefore, his kind parting words that have left you confused.

However, people are confusing and it's difficult to know what goes on in anyone's head. I'm a complete fan of full-on honesty and I second Ozone's suggestion. Send him an email asking if he's interested in anything. Don't use language that puts pressure on him, as that's sure to elicit the same platitudes that you're already receiving. Just let him know that you're confused about his intentions and would appreciate his telling you what's going on in his head... and be prepared for whatever answer you receive.

"but your parting statements are not I will see you soon etc etc when you want it to end."

That is not necessary true. I have said things such as that to people I have no intention of seeing again as easily as I have said it to people I do plan on seeing again. I am much more likely to think if one wanted to see someone again that it would have been made much clearer.

I'm pretty sure the best thing to so is to say "look is there something going on here or was that just a three day fling"?

I'm not real big on mystery.

Thanks .. that really helped -- all of you are voicing all that I am thinking without wanting to accept it. Not a big fan of mystery myself or playing hard to get. And from what I uderstood he was coming out of a bad break up, so I might just have been the ego boost you need when you are low. Time for me to ask, accept and move on. Thanks again, all !

We men are simple creatures and respond really well to simply being asked how we feel.

What I'm trying to say is that if you really want to know what he's thinking, just ask him.

I know this sounds sexist and I apologize for offending anybody ahead of time, but what themikehaynes said is, unfortunately, true. We women think about relationships of all kinds too much and just plain old asking directly is smarter. I'd practise and role play with a trusted girlfriend what and how to ask, if you're not sure.

themikehaynes is right. Women, don't make it more complicated than it already is by trying to read our minds :). Men respond best when we're simply asked what we want, what we're doing, what we're thinking, etc. Seriously, we like it.