Chixe

I always say it first, because she never said it

I think it's romantic when the man and woman say it together... awwww.... 9rules group hug :)

In my experience, it's been pretty close, 50/50.

How about you answer your own question? (grin)

I haven't said it yet nor has he. It's almost two months.

But just sensing it, I think he'd say it first.

Why have you not said I love you yet? Do you need more time to see if love is there?

If you feel it, go for it and say it...

In your previous note, you said "My boyfriend and I don't play any games. We communicate well."

Sounds like you need to communicate about your feelings... not saying you'll feel major love in 2 months, but it does happen.

I haven't said it because I don't know if I feel it yet.

@avuee: How will you know if you feel it? Have you been in love before?

That's actually another good question... when does a "crush" and nice feelings cross over and become feelings of being "in love"?

I find it difficult to say the three words. I don't know why. I think what scares me is the breaking of the commitment after saying the three words, from either side.

And I have no idea how he'd react. And he's never been in love.

@avuee: just curious... how old are you and your boyfriend?

if you don't want to say exactly... i totally understand... so if you won't say exactly, how about over 18, under 18... 21... under/over?

Were both 27.

My terse answer is "whoever feels it first."

It all depends on how seriously you take those words. I know people who start throwing it around after the first few weeks. My boyfriend didn't say it until we'd been together over a year.

I think saying "I love you" is a formality at times — what really matters is whether you feel it.

Most of the time I say it first. I'm a sappy romantic, she's not. Though, when she does say it, I know she's feeling very strongly... and that it means a lot!

There should be a sub thread of this topic. If you say it too soon, the person may not react as good as you had hoped. So that's kind of why I' hoping he'll say it first. Then, if you say it too soon-- it may screw things.

I'm the kind of person that's very skeptical about attaching myself to someone else and so, sometimes it's hard for me to be the first one to say it. But you know that when I say it, I mean it.

With that said...my girlfriend said it first.

I'd agree with whoever feels it first. It took my girlfriend a whole 6 months to say those words and even so it wasn't without the fact she was half asleep at the time. She isn't exactly that emotional to begin with.

I told her the moment I felt something which was earlier than that.

It depends on the person I guess. My answer would be, the more emotional person in the relationship, which doesn't necessarily mean the woman.