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I'm not completely sure that there is a right way to "handle" rejection. There are 4,152 cliches that speak to the issue, but very few of them actually do anything significant to calm or stave off the pain.

A few years ago, someone that I look up to told me that I would be okay in this life as long as I was willing to hurt, and to be hurt. That doesn't mean that I stick my chin out or am a doormat for people to walk on, it simply means that as long as I am willing to feel the pains that life brings, I will certainly be willing to feel the joy.

So, I remain willing to hurt, and I know without a doubt that my life is better for it, and that I am a wiser man as a result (even if just in the tiniest way).

My best to you...

I've always just dealt with it and then moved on. No sense living in the past.

ditto.
mope if you really really have to, but be quick about it.

cheeks2smiles, you have started a lot of posts recently with the topic of 'relationships.' I haven't exactly had the time to read every one of the topics, but I want to let you know that most of us have probably been through the same situation and this period involves a lot of self reflection and thinking. We can give you our opinions but you are going to have to figure a lot out for yourself. It just takes time.

After being rejected so many times. With a pinch of salt.

I ask people without expecting them to actually say yes. So when they do, I'm usually at a lost. Which seems alright in a way. I've been told it's cute really on those moments where I'm at a lost. Eventually I calm down and do what I would do if they say yes.

Go with the flow.

Each person is unique and handles rejection in a different manner. You have to find what your comfort zone is, act, react, and then move forward.

You just pick up and move on. That's all you can do.

"Go with the flow."
I've heard this phrase so many times but how do you know if you're actually going with the flow or not? Sometimes, you think you are, but you're not...
Anyways, back to the subject. When I got rejected, I just think of it as: "It's not that there's anything wrong with me, it's just that we aren't compatible and we're not made for each other. I'll just continue my quest in finding my other half."

Siyun: That's pretty much going with the flow. If there is one thing it's realizing that you aren't important. Unless you've made a significant impact in people's lives, they will bat an eye and forget about you. You just go with the flow and keep moving with your life.

There are plenty of opportunities out there (not just on people but on matters like work as well), we can't all waste time dwelling on rejection like we were that important anyway.

But we are important. they're the ones missing out

Rejection is apart of life. It happens to everyone. You just have to find the best way to suck it up and get over it. Life will be hard if you don't learn how to deal well with rejection.

I'd rather ask and get rejected. I'd feel pretty awful if I am missed out because I am afraid of being rejected.

If rejected, have a laugh at myself...life goes on :)

But we are important. they're the ones missing out.

Hahaha...if that's the case, I'd feel very depressed everytime someone rejects me because I have been rejected a whole lot throughout my life.

Vidar...that is a positive way to look at it, and indicative of one's self-esteem.

I can't be everything to everybody. If it doesn't work, oh well. If it's beacuse of something I did, then I have a chance to correct my behavior moving forward. If it's something beyond my control, the sooner I accept it the better off I am.

Look at rejection as a gift. It's your chance to get a quick look at how well a relationship will work. Nature's way of screening out the bad.