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I see no reason not to have more than one date in a week, especially if they're first dates. More than one a day is probably not a good idea, though. :)

How do they find out that you're going on other dates?

Yeah more than one a day can be a bit hectic. How do they find out? Well no matter what city you live in it's always going to be small when it comes to finding out stuff.

Ah, it's most definitely not exclusive, however some girls expect that. Nothing you can do about it except hope they don't find out (say, try and avoid running into them the next day with another girl).

I always think the terms "dating" and "going out" to be two very different things. If you're 'dating' thats what you just described.. one, two, maybe three dates. That's obviously a cool time to be with others. If the girl doesn't appreciate that, well, a) cool, she's obviously into you enough to care and b) do whatever the hell you want? ;-)

You guys let women get away with way to much. A man better not have a problem with me seeing other men the first time we go out. Or it will be the last time - see that's a sign you men love to ignore.

Well then, now that we've all heard from the authority — aka Tyme — time to find the ol' black book.

More on topic, I don't think it's an issue — whether they do or not is another topic entirely — unless both parties have decided to be exclusive with each other. When it gets to that stage you probably don't want to go on dates with other women though.

I think in this case, dating is as exclusive as both parties make it out to be. I've met men who like to only date one girl at a time, even if it's not serious. If you're upfront that you may be seeing other women, I think that's fine. I mean, why hide it, if it's the truth?

I always think women who expect men to only date them when nothing has been said are just silly. I don't care how many dates you've been on this week, as long as you arn't telling me about them when we're on ours.

I'll say it to put it bluntly, but some women just want the title. That being of "The Girlfriend". Not "The Chick I'm Dating". If your going on a few dates with different people, then why call it exclusive? You're not just seeing one person. You're dating several. There's no real reason to call it a title, or give it a title in dating. You're dating. There's only a title when you're married.

Eeek, if she's getting posessive after the first date, RUN.

Yep that sounds like a bunny boiler moment - hide your bunnies I think and ditch those clingons. I agree with Tyme that some women think they can get away with a lot. I never had that assumption when just dating a man - titles are for engagement / marriage and for when you both decide to be exclusive dating. There seems a lot of my fellow gender that assume they have the rights to a man just by getting a drink brought - it makes me mutter and grumble. I generally find they are being hypocrits and usually dating more men themselves. Just dating doesn't give you rights to someone - that comes with time and when you both move onto the next phase - in my book anyway.

I make sure not to call it a date. We're going out. Where I live when a couple is getting to know each other they're talking but again, that means no other dates. I'm quick to set a guy straight but usually he doesn't use the term date. Here dating=courting so guys avoid it like the plague until they aren't seeing anyone else. Which is smart.

Personally I have madd respect for the guy that says: "Hazel and I saw the new Superman movie the other night. Good movie, I highly recommend it."

1) He puts it out there I'm not the only one (hate to say it but some women need constant reminders).
2) He's not too much of a whimp to let it be known (meaning his level of honesty is higher than his fear of not getting sex).
3) He didn't invite me to see it, yet wants me to check it out, I'm not going alone - and he knows it.

If our relationship works, I'll be the one going with him next time - not Hazel.

I agree with Tyme, for me I could care less what I say or do around a girl i'm just starting to see. There's no point trying to be someone you're not cuz it'll catch up to you later. But, wow your level of analysis of that Hazel statement is scary. LOL. I can see 1 and 2, but 3 threw me off for a bit. How many chicks really think that far into what a guy says?

Wow, Tyme. You got it down to a fine science. Impressive. I have much to learn. I'm getting anxious just thinking about it. Eek! *hides*

The "title" is always fun as long as BOTH parties are on the same page. Until that happens, all is fair....dating more than one girl/guy in a week is totally fine....good for you if you can! I've enjoyed it....=]

Seriously. Tyme is right. Most men let women get away with way to much. It's your choice. Do whatever you want. If a woman dictates that you only see her, you get to choose: Is she worth it, are you interested in a serious relationship with that woman enough that it's worth not seeing any other girls? If yes, well stick with it. If not, and especially if you just went out with her once, tell her the truth and keep on dating others.

What I want to know is what is the secret to getting multiple dates a week?
Seriously. I'm happy if I have one each year.

There is no secret ;) Just know what you want, who you want and what they want...

Hmm..women always just flock to me. You mean other people aren't sex gods?

Huh..guess you learn something new every day.

;-)

Indeed. It's just like gravitation.

Wait... that requires mass. Um. Disregard that ôO

Well, if you're seeing someone and it starts to get intimate - even if it's not sex, you should probably let the girl know that you're dating other people, and make sure she's ok with that.

It's pretty silly to think someone I have a date with for the first time would be seeing me exclusively, as a matter of fact it would be downright scary.

I guess if a woman you are dating feels that way it is probably a good idea to run the other way.

As long as you are clear, there is no exclusivity in dating. If a date is upset about you seeing other people, then it may work in your favor or she's a needy one and you should run.

Seriously, I don't see the problem. A date is just a set time and a set place between two people. Exclusivity isn't part of the deal. You go out with a person to know them and have fun. It doesn't have to be cliched, it doesn't have to be classy.

It just has to be enjoyable.

But it seems to me that if you really dug this girl, you'd want to see her exclusively and NOT see anyone else - first date or not, usually you know right away if you're going to click.

Nah you don't always know right away because you usually ask a girl on a date when things are clicking for that moment. Spend an extended period of time with her alone and how knows that crazy stuff you will witness.