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1.) Be open-minded
2.) Be passionate about something
3.) Know when to be laid-back, yet know when it's time to hit the town for cocktails!
4.) Know when to give me my own space

Avuee, you should also answer your own question ;)

For me, I've always liked a fun easy going personality in the girls I've dated.

To add a couple more to JPhill's list, honesty/trust is important and enjoying technology.

Also, non smoking. I can see a really pretty girl which might strike my interest but if I see her light up a smoke, I go the other way.

I have friends who smoke but for someone I'm going to date, I prefer non smokers.

@seanrox,

I'm going to answer my own question, but sometimes I forget to. I don't have a 'type', I just want someone honest, considerate, and genuine. I'm not into playing games, unless it's checkers or scrabble or maybe a game of Twister! A great sense of humor doesn't hurt either.

@avuee: Thanks for answering :)

I agree with you, honest, considerate, and genuine. Those are some rockin' qualities.

@seanrox,

I cut and pasted that from my "portrait" on match.com, hahaha! No but seriously, I like the simple things. Yeah, the guy better be hot... that chemistry that is so undeniable too. That's hot too.

I've written about it before in this post, but I'll sum it up in a gist since that's a pretty detailed list.

1. With a sense of humour, the kind that even you can't understand why.
2. Loves danger and faced up to it before bearing the price they paid.
3. Killing edge that will most likely mean you could be screwed at the end.
4. Geeks with an curiosity that can't be quenched.
5. Securely knowing what they want and would stop at nothing to have it.

I'd have to say the person needs to have a strong sense of self. I'm not into having the responsibility of completing someone and I don't need someone to complete me. Suppose authentic is what I'm getting at. Hot doesn't hurt either.

Self is important. And I say that with a capital. Because if she doesn't know who she is, how in the world is she gonna date you? Her opnions may be guided by what you believe. It's important to have your own opinions and thoughts. I can say for me at this very moment my sense of Self is unclear. I've hit a bump in the road with my recovery, and hopefully it doesn't last.

Someone that makes me want to be a better me and strive for it? :)

1. geeky is hot
2. kindness is an absolute
3. pleasant demeaner
4. gotta like me for me, despite all the other stuff

1. Can make me laugh. I tend to always be the one making other people laugh and busting me up is rare, at least when it comes to girls.
2. Doesn't expect, or want, me to spend every free moment I have with them. I have my own life and they should have one too. Sometimes I want to spend time with my girlfriend, other times I need to go get drunk with the guys.
3. Doesn't mind hanging out the guys once in a while :D
4. A cute smile never hurt anybody.
5. Understands my obsession with geeky/artsy stuff and doesn't mind taking part in it..if she doesn't understand computers, writing, or photography it's a no-go.
6. She has to "live up to her end of the deal". Meaning, she has to put as much into the relationship as I do. I hate feeling like I'm the only one putting effort in.
7. Non-smoker. I've seen it kill too many people in my life.
8. I know it when I see it.

Yeaaah, hanging out, and meshing with the guys is a must. If she doesn't like my friends, then we have a problem. Good call bgilham.

All these are good descriptors but once you get past them I think the deeper qualities are: can they understand what I do, why I do it, are they supportive, do we support each other, do we work together well as a team, etc.?

Being nice and funny can describe everyone i know- so obviously the bigger things are what I look for.

1. Must be my husband ;)

Karmatose: Haha, nice save. :P

Devin, these all make a lot of sense. I'd take them for me, but I would have just change cute smile for cute butt. ;) Haha just kidding.

Oh man, I'd love to hang out with 'the guys' seriously but I think most guys are afraid to ask their girlfriend if they'd like to do so? Or even ask their friends if they don't mind it.

I don't know about that veronique. I hang out with the guys more than the girls. Also, my husband and me are heading to 8 years together - 10 years plus with the same friends as best friends before - so our friends are the same. If you are with someone for a long time your friends all become the same pool more than likely so it doesn't become an issue. I guess, seeing as he was my best friend before we got together that it never was much of an issue. My past boyfriends have never had an issue though, but I am often considered more 'one of the lads' than anything else so maybe that is the reason.

It turns out that I must be looking for the crazy ones. The ones who will will make a big deal about nothing, cry for 5 minutes and then be happy-go-lucky and ready to have fun a minute later. Or maybe it's the kind that tell you they think they love you after only dating for a week. Or the compulsive liars. Or the ones that you date for over a year and she won't let you meet her other guy friends...

The list goes on. For some reason I'm attracted to the crazies.

Crazy bitches are usually the fun ones tho...you'd be surprised how many guys like girls like me....jk....:)

Someone who can take my jokes and constant kidding. The one who finds my flaws to be gems and not things to improve upon.

The one I can talk to about anything but he'll be the one I want to share things with the most. Someone who can see through all the hype that surrounds me and realize I'm just me.

stefani, I couldn't agree more; the crazy ones are the fun ones.

Scrivs hit the nail on the head. If she can't handle my little quirks and flaws, and preferably balance them out with HER quirks and flaws, then it just isn't going to work. For example, I'm terrible at business type stuff, but my girlfriend works in human resources and it's right up her alley.

-they can stand out or blend in to a room, whichever they prefer at the moment
-spontaneous (road trip? all right, lets go!)
-impulsive-they might have to take back what they said/did or be embarassed for being goofy, but at least they did something
-like rock/indie music (or can show me something new in the music dept.)
-will quote lyrics or movies offhand in a conversation
-yet....they can be serious, and have a passion for something (hopefully artistic)

this is not the end all be all, but these things are true in people i have chemistry with

must be sincere

Good teeth, preferably very white. That just happens to be the first thing I notice.

Smart, must be smart and any evidence of him being sexist, racist, severely conservative or extremely religious and that candidate is off the list.

Someone who is not interested in doing everything I do, knowing everyone I do everything with, and no calling a several times a day.

Prefer someone who is physically active, funny and creative.

I dislike passive aggressive men too.

Must be intelligent. After that, I like a woman that is prepared for life. To me that means a good sense of humor, strong willingness to change, and some passions (eg. career, music, hobby, etc.). Finally, we need to have strong attraction and great intimacy.

1. Someone who respects what I want.
2. Not boring.
3. Sweet.
4. Presentable physical appearance.
5. Good hygiene.