when and what should i say?
Written By hippyman on Dec. 22, 2006.
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I met this girl last night at this concert, and we had a lot in common. I really liked her. At the end of the concert she gave me her number. If I call her what should I say? Should I just talk to her or ask her out to something? I'm 15 and this is the fist time this happened to me. Thanks.

RuDdY
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
Ah, I remember those days.
First off, be yourself and have a good sense of humor (nothing overboard though), I feel that women like to talk to guys who express confidence in the way they talk and if you add a bit of humor to it, even better. Also, try not to talk about yourself too much, unless she asks; girls usually like to talk about themselves and make sure you listen to them because if she says something random like "I saw this set of purple orchids at the market today, it was beautiful!" and then another day you guys go out for dinner and you draw a beautiful set of orchids on her napkin and she'll go crazy just because you remembered that small fact. Notice how I said draw not buy orchids, again, its the spontaneity and the small things that they love. You'll buy her the actual orchids eventually too =). It's funny how I staged a whole event, but you get the idea. Girls are particular about the small details a guy can offer, and having a good memory is essential. Dont try to impress so much, just follow her vibe because she will definitely give out signs.
You're only 15, girls come and go, keep talking to as many as you can because the more you do the more you learn.
Best of Luck!
hippyman
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
I could ask her out to a concert this friday.....or is that to fast? I've only seen her for 3 hours.
stefani
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
I agree with R. talk to as many girls as you can, you are really young and need the experience....be YOURSELF dont be artificial, girls can see through that in a heartbeat.
JPhill
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
Don't try to be all extra cool when you call her. Just talk to her like a friend and see where things go. I'd definitely ask her to another concert if you think it would be fun.
karmatosed
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
Be yourself is the only option - after all any image you try and portray will fail eventually. Go on friend level first and the asking to another concert is a great way to get things rolling. Common ground is always a great start.
Alday
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
If you go the "be chummy like a friend" route you will end up stuck in the Friend Zone™, where no man wants to tread. Chris Rock says guys don't have female friends, just chicks they haven't banged yet. Women know this that's why when a girl you just met gives you her number it's not because she thinks you'll be a best friend forever. She's hot for you, go for broke.
Ask her to this other concert, be sure to make it explicit that it's a date. If you go with her and have a good time you HAVE to call her the next day, not first thing in the morning but noonish. Just say you had a good time and ask when you can see her again. This plan will work 100% of the time...or it least it did with me and millions of other guys.
JPhill
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
Hahaha, the Friend Zone! I was waiting for that to come up!
puremyth
Written Dec. 22, 2006 / Report /
Some good advice there. Don't try to "say the right thing", she's a girl, not a brainteaser. Stop stressing about whether or not she'll like you, she already does, that's a given, so enjoy it. If you're too stressed and terrified to act normal, tell her you're too stressed and terrified to act normal. Be honest, be real, don't hide anything. And it's never too soon to call.