I went out with a guy for about a month and I really liked him and he really liked me and we spent the whole month together. He came on the family holiday and everything. Before we were going out, I didn't know if I liked him so I did turn him down the first time he asked me out. A few days later I realised I really liked him so I asked him out. So then we started going. That night I introduced him to my "best friend". He is an extremely good looking boy but I really did like him for who he was. So my best friend was flirting with him and he didn't know what to do. I didn't really care because I trusted my new boyfriend.
So while I was away at the coast, I get a phone call from my boyfriend. He told me that my best friend told him that she was in love with him. I wanted to strangle her. I finally found an awesome guy and my best friend wanted him. I asked him how he felt about her, and he said he only liked me and will only ever like me.
So I came back home and my best friend was away for a couple of week on a holiday and me and him were pretty much connected at the hip. He would come over to my house everyday or I would go to his and look after his little brother with him. He then told me he loved me. I didn't say it back because I knew I didn't love him and I still didn't trust him.
One night I had a few friend around for drinks and my best friend came. She was flirting with him to whole night. So I approached her and I had a word with her. My boyfriend then started sticking up for her. I asked him if he liked her, and he said no. I then told him I loved him and that I do trust.
A couple of days later I went away for a couple of days with some other girlfriends. I tried calling him all day. He wouln't answer. So I called my best friends home phone and he answered. I went off at him. I finally trusted him and he was at my best friends house doing God knows what. The next day he broke up with me because I didn't trust him.
He then started asking for me back but I needed some time for myself.
Then school started up again and I ignored my "best friend". She decided to tell people a different story, so I ended up getting bullied. I don't mind that because I have more friends outside of school, but no one likes to be bullied.
I called my ex up that night and I wanted to let him know what was happening. I did blame it on him which i realised was wrong. I called him up after and I apologized for blaming it on him. He told me I was insecure and that I needed professional help. He then said that he hated me and that he was in love with my best friend. Every time I go out, they are there. They are always where I am. It is very strange. I don't see why they can't make out in private where I won't see them.
What do you think about all this? Help please. I am so confused and I don't know how to approach this situation. I don't want to say or do anything I will regret.

3 Comments
themikehaynes
Written Feb. 21, 2008 / Report /
It's obviously going to be hard for you to get over this guy but you need to. Here's what I think you should do. Cut off all ties to your friend, at least for now, and spend time with your other friends. In time, you'll find someone new and things will work out.
auburn
Written Feb. 21, 2008 / Report /
I agree. Get out of that weird triangle. Find something to become very busy with. Connect with other friends. Even though it's tempting, please don't contribute to any gossip. Somewhere in the experience, you have gained a new definition of "best friend".
dreaming_awake
Written Feb. 21, 2008 / Report /
This is one for the ladies but I must say that try to think in terms of what you lost. Nothing. They weren't worth anything. Don't waste your precious time dwelling on it and leave them out of your life. Take what you learnt and be happy that you are out of that artificial world.
And seeing them together can be hard. As hard as it sounds try blocking out their existence. You have many other people to care about. Live for what you have and not what you don't/couldn't.
Hang in there nikki! And be more careful... :)