Chixe Thread: Argue, yell, makeup...argue, yell, makeup?

Argue, yell, makeup...argue, yell, makeup?

Scrivs — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 19:08:23

(Your mom should be in this Note talking about it then)

All I can say is we are creatures of habit.

Argue, yell, makeup...argue, yell, makeup?

Tyme — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 03:35:36

My Mom is having too much fun talking about this Note. She brought up a good point: when a woman says she's not mad when she really is.

*Notice how I address it before a guy can bring it up.*

I can't talk for all women but all the women that I know that do this (myself included at times) is because you can't tell the guy you're mad and you just don't want to talk about it so it can blow over.

Because the guy freaks out.

So the woman tries to avoid him freaking out by saying she's not mad. Here is the key (at least for the women I know). The guy has been absolved from trouble when she says she's not mad. She just wants to chill, sort through it, cool off, etc. because she realizes talking about it at that time might make things worse.

Now I'm sure some women will come back and say the guy should have said something even though she said she wasn't mad. Dump those women. Seriously - damned if you do, damned if you don't.

My Mom is still laughing, making scenarios up about dealing with guys when the girl is mad. Gotta love it when she stops by.

Argue, yell, makeup...argue, yell, makeup?

Tyme — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 03:08:39

If I was in a relationship like the one I would go insane. They are happily married (whatever works for them) but they scream a lot and argue a lot.

It also made it very clear how easy it is for the next woman to pay for what the previous woman did. If a guy had women like this in his past (and you're not like that) trying to convince a guy that you're not like that is an uphill battle you might not know you have to climb. I could imagine trying to convince a guy that was in a relationship like that:

No, I'm not going to scream.
Seriously, I know what happened but I'm not mad.
But you say you don't like women to be mad and I'm not mad.
Why are you screaming? I'm mad, but I'm not THAT mad.
That was yesterday, I'm supposed to still be mad today? My bad.
What look? I'm just looking.
So when I'm not mad you don't believe I'm not mad and when I'm mad I shouldn't be?
You didn't do anything wrong. WTF?
I said WTF because I don't get why you think you did something wrong. I'm not mad.
No, I'm not going to scream....

Now I fully understand the bullshit I've gone through. I'm glad they are happy, they have a beautiful son who is adorable and I can't say enough I'm glad they are happy.

I'm not into screaming, hollering, and arguing. I guess I'm the minority because YouTube is filled with videos of couples like this and guys saying women are mad all the time.

And men prefer to be solo instead of getting in a bad marriage?