Chixe

What a question ?? Of course NO !

Not going to happen

"at least i didnt sleep with Lumbergh"

ewwww...

Hello everyone. New kid on the block so to speak.
Just wanted to add to the conversation.

I personaly have not, *yet*, but would love the opertunity to experience the situation. My boss is one year younger than myself and quite attractive. She and I have had some very extreme discussions, as well as Q & A sessions about sex. Both about ourselves as well as our likes, dislikes and bodies.

"Want to know more?" *YES* - *NO*

gosh am I glad I stumbled upon this website. Call me naive- when my boss hinted he wanted to sleep with me- I was very, very flattered but very surprised. I am in my late 20s and have two kids- married. He is married, has a mistress at work (officially) and is in his late 40s. He just hinted to me that he does this with 6 other members of our department- said it was good for one.

I am still trying to take all this in. Is it just me or does this happen a lot in this culture? I am very attracted to him and must confess have flirted with him- maybe even fantasized- but this is a whole new level- and very interesting.

Would love your opinions.

Having sex with a boss sounds so much like some of those Fox series...

But on a more serious note, having sex with your boss, or any person who you work with is more likely to happen than sex with a person you meet on a date. Think about it, who do you spend most of your time with (if you're employed): your family, or your co-workers?

my boss is a guy and i'm not gay. so, no.

I was in this situation when i was young. I was 18 and had been on my job for over a year. One day my boss came up to me and said he needed to talk to me. We went to his office. He point blank told me he was attracted to me and if i would sleep with him he would make sure i got extra on my paycheck. And if i continued to sleep with him, in the mistress sense, he would make sure i profited from it. This guy was old. He was in his fiftys and here i was 18. I had come to look at him as a father figure as i had lost my dad the year before.

Anyways, i did'nt sleep with him. I reported him for being a sicko and quit that job and left. Not all men in a position to be a boss would act this way but i find it disgusting when a man or a woman uses their position that way. Even if it was'nt a situation like that i still don't think its right to sleep with a boss. It would just complicate things.

Good greif Maryjane! That doesn't sound like sex with the boss, heh, that sounds more like a silicitation for prostitution, o.O !

He sounds like he had some majore issues.

Well technically, Mr. Paul Scrivens is my boss, so if I still have to answer the question, then yes, unequivocally.

mmm , difficult question , if boss was a beautiful , nasty woman , why not?)))))))

I'd rather have sex with my boyfriend.

Never never never never NEVER. Never. Not unless you're ready and willing to be suddenly unemployed, or suddenly have all your co-workers dislike and distrust you.

If you value your potential affair with your boss more than your job, quit your job first and then follow through on the affair. If that sounds crazy to you, then turn your bedroom eyes elsewhere. There are about a million other people you could be sleeping with besides your boss. Go find one, or five, or twenty.

been there done that (no pun intended)... what? don't hate, she was hot! LOL!

Terrible idea, especially if you like your job. Just tell your boss to quit so you can assume his/her position and then screw him/her with no worries about job security.

Yes, but only in the name of subverting the hierarchy.

Ok people. There are young 9rules users here. Ahem. But hell yeah! 'Course I would. Provided it was a genuine attraction, as opposed to wanting a promotion. ;)

Harry

It's just asking for trouble!!!

...besides, my boss is ugly...

Crazy but a true story. A friend of mine is sleeping with her boss and also chats with his wife from time to time. They travel the world on business and at the end of a long night they wind up drunk and screwing. Back at the office "one they share" it's all an act. Yea she wants to make money, and doesn't want to lose the opp. He has the knowledge she needs and the power to let her go if he wants to. She is careless of his power but admires his intelligence and is putting up with his advances to further her own career. So just recently I get a phone call and this is the story. A wife in one room, sales partner in the other under the same roof in a hotel. This is a juicy bit... He takes her back to her room after a long night of entertaining clients and ravishes her. Then he leaves the room where he completed his mission and returns to his wife. In the morning they all have breakfast together!!!

Any thoughts on how this pattern can stop without a negative reaction? Can success be achieved on her part?

- Risky Rabbit

NO F-ing way. It's not good for them or you. If you really want to, quit first, then one for the road. :)

... unless you're my Secretary, then it's mandatory. :)

I stumbled on this while researching sleeping with the boss topic. I have a situation that is burning me up. Not only do I have a boss...I have 3 very hot male boss' well actually four but one does not count as hot. They all seem very thrilled to have me working there. There are always inuendos coming at me. I even overheard two of them having a discussion about getting caught. The one who really turns me on said to the other " We'll I think I'll just have to go for it and ask for forgiveness later" if it comes to that . But it gets better. This one has had me swirling inside since I started there. Initially it was his sweet nature and southern Memphis accent (always saying PLEASE MA'AM) that started the fantasy. I just wanted to corrupt that sweet thing. Mabey begging "PLEASE MA'AM" Then it dawned on me....his first name is the same as my husbands. Oh La La La did this thing just get way more twisted? Now when I am enjoying the home front...and I call out hubbys name.....I have thoughts of the other fantasy in my head. I ve been there, going on 2 months and all I can think about is this twisted little scene in my head. I keep thinking about meeting him in the back unused offices where there is a maze of rooms. Everytime we are near each other physically, my temperature increases about 20 degrees and I can't seem to catch my breath. He senses this and makes it worse by asking "Whats Wrong? Do you need to get some air or take a break. He has the naughtiest smile ever asking this. He even went so far as to ask everyone in the front areas and ours if they thought the temperature was too warm in our offices. He said he noticed some of the offices were warmer than others. He pointed out that ( me) even has a fan in her office and looked me straight in the eye in front of everyone and asked " Do you think it's too hot in here?" OMG did I ever get turned on! Then there's a young very innocent new guy who is like an intern there. He smiles incessantly at me ( he's very naive) but he seems to be everywhere, all over that office. Recently, I just twisted it some more and decided it would be kinda real slutty if it was me and the hottest boss in the back room and the intern hears us and decides to watch and only I know he's watching. Ok I'm ending this saga. I didn't come here to write a story but just to tell others how difficult it is to control the situation when things get really really really HOT!!! and thats just the scene with the one boss. There's still 2 other hot ones. This may all stay just in my head or I may play it out over time and see if I can gain some valuable experience!! Does anyone have any suggestions that may help me in this situation?

Just...........2sweet

Hey, soak it up and have a good time. This can be good for you to get what you want from the business. Use it to your advantage, get a hard edge and control the situation. This is ok, being professional and prude is not reality and you need to be yourself to win. What I'm saying is play along, but don't give yourself away either by making it obvious.

- Risky Rabbit

You are so right about being myself ! I am not the professional prudish type! That is not to say that I don't act professional - just minus the prude! I do need to be myself to win. I simply cannot conform to the status quo! I'm not your average ordinary girl. I am playing along for sure! I know how to play discretely. Now the ball is in the other court. I chose this position over others because I had no immediate female supervisors. I sometimes run into jelousy issues with them. I don't hate men! I am a highly intelligent, high intensity, high energy, highly optimistic,easy to look at female. This bothers some women, especially in business. I don't plan to be obvious, part of the whole turn on is knowing and others don't....well except mabey for the intern guy! LOL. But there's this whole aspect to knowing that 4 intelligent, great to decent looking men, are truly happy knowing they have a very sweet, sexy, smart female colleague to work with. It kinda puts a wicked little smile on my face. I feel like I know the most fantastic secret in the world. All the other people wearing their frowns and blank stares are missing the boat! As far as the rest of the workers go and what they think.....one of the four bosses is a ceo for the whole southern us region... he chose me out of 100+applicants.He says I am the whole package. They don't seem to say a whole lot about anything he does. He is a highly liked and respected boss. This is my dream job and I love it ! I just hope the same name thing doesn't become an issue when I am with the other side!! It's kinda weird but in a strangely erotic way! Thanks for the input.....I plan to take a wait and see approach for the time being. Anyone else have a thought on this?

I have been working with my boss for 9 years, we are more like friends than colleages.
We flirt all the time , we have a good laugh with lots of banter.
We have been attracted to each other for years, he is married with kids and I have a long term partner.
My boss and I have kissed and fooled around a little bit, we both know the score.
We both want to sleep together and know it will be only sex no relationship, but can it ever be like that?
I am I playing with fire or should I go ahead and do what we have both been wanting for ages!

I think it is important to know yourself well before you make that decision. How good are you at checking your emotions and keeping them reserved for your partner? I can easily do this! Sex is Sex is Fun/play is sex to me. Get it? I seperate things easily and am only out for the fun. One time or mabey a few now and then. Whatever....half of it is the challenge! Just be careful whatever you do !

I work at the pink pages, so I don't think it would even be appealing for my boss.

Let me think about it.

I'd never cross the line of having sex with a manager, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to. ¬___¬

Yeah I think there's a line where most people would THINK about it... but MOST wouldn't ACTUALLY do the deed.

We had a boss at my last job that was ssssssssmokin, but no WAY would anyone cross THAT line.

Exactly. I think it's common in any work environment and completely natural. As for the user, curious, I would really suggest avoiding giving into temptation. A deeper emotional attachment is all too easy to slip into. If things become awkward the atmosphere can fast turn sour and work will not longer be enjoyable because of it.

I'm thinking Lone Ranger, cowboy hat, shouting "Now who's the boss!"

*I wish to state that I am not actually a trained rider.

Edited: You all got sensible so, for the record, probably not a good idea. I guess it depends on the individuals concerned and how things are conducted (not in the meeting room!) as it affects your co-workers and changes the team dynamic too .

if u can be professional about it. and if you are both single.

I have a hot boss. How do I get about knowing if he'd go for it. there is attraction and there's been some gentle touching on a drunken night during a business trip. Nothing happened.. then again I was really trashed.

CK ... dude you have a point!! awkward situations suck. Could make you want to leave employment.

Bad news. I've seen it again and again. Unless you plan to marry, stay away from the boss.

I guess this is a PS to my comment. I have two supervisors. One is gay and we have mutual respect. The other is my age but stupid. I know he has power but he's not very bright. I am hoping everyday he leaves. I would never have sex with my boss and especially I would not have sex with these two!

Hmm. My situation covers several threads here!

I am dating a co-worker. I'm his supervisor. I'm 6 1/2 years older (29 & 23). He's Catholic, and will "only go so far". He's never had a girlfriend, while I've lived with several serious partners.

We started doing things outside of work, like skiing, going dancing....and I truly thought we were "just friends", but I soon realized that he was interested in something serious.

The gossip at work has finally died down.

In general, I say:
Don't have sex with your boss