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Easy girls are like cheat codes. Win the real way.

Maybe were overlooking 'why' she does this? Could it be that she is just being cautious and taking her time to figure out of she really likes you or not? That wouldnt constitute playing games in my book.

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I totally agree with Jeff; a girl should be cautious and "hard to get" but she shouldn't just play games to make herself feel better because a guy chases after her. That's just snobby.

I think there are guys who like what they can't have.

Here's my "me too": I agree with Michael.

I know of an instance personally of this guy who always wants an "unattainable" girl. The girl he wants is either drop-dead gorgeous or has a boyfriend. And the ones with a boyfriend that he likes are generally not drop-dead gorgeous, too. It's one or the other but never both.

He also generally has a poor outlook on life (being around him is a drag ... and thank god he's a friend-of-a-friend so I have minimal contact with him) and he's always got to talk everything down like he has superior taste 100% of the time.

I'm going to stop now because even just thinking about him is rather infuriating.

Wow estarla, you understood my exact idea from my one sentence. Yeah that is exactly the kind of situation I am picturing.

What can I say? My one liners are effective.

I don't think it's the fact guys like what they can't have, we like the idea of getting what took so much damn hard work to get. That's why many times after we get it we could care less about it. Guys like the challenge of the hunt.

Scrivs, I'm just playing devil's advocate by asking, So do you think that is really "getting" what you worked so hard to get if you lose interest in it later?

I might think that's another category--liking the challenge of the hunt because you believe it's worth it ... vs. liking the challenge of the hunt just for the challenge.

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honestly, it's always better when they are hard to get, but i love easy girls all the same.

@estarla: Sure because in this case what a man wants is the sense of accomplishment of being able to get the girl, not necessarily the girl herself. It's a bit messed up I know. As mentioned though there are other times where the challenging girl is the one you want and getting her makes it that much more rewarding.

Not everyone plays by the same rules.

Yeah, I hear ya Scrivs. That is certainly true in regards to the example I gave.

Basically we are scum, except for the excellent males here at 9rules. I exclude myself from their company because I can't say I haven't done what I just got done talking about. Only reason why I know it so well :(.

No.

Yes, PRDesign? :)

Yeah I would be lying if I said I didn't do something of the same, ever. That is, lose interest in something (someone) once something (he/she) was attainable. For me, I believe it happened once during college. It took me aback. I think you might call it "lack of foresight" or something.

I guess I am scum, too. Sigh.

Thats why its important to think things through

I guess I am scum, too. Sigh.

Or we can just call it sick human nature. I know this won't sit well with people but how often do we buy something we have been craving from months only to throw it around just weeks after buying it? Yes putting human emotions and artificial goods on the same plane is twisted, but what is the difference?

the difference is that the object wont get all bitchy when you stop caring and then tell you that you lost your chance when (and if) for some reason you start to care about it again at some point in the future.

gotta agree with jeff :)

Definitely guys are more likely to see you as a girlfriend (rather than a shag or whatever), the longer you hold out. Unfair and sexist, maybe, but true, I think. The longer the anticipation is, the more time there is for him to get to see her as a person, not just a sex object, and so it becomes less of a target in itself.

Not sure that makes sense, written like that... it makes sense in my head... sorry.

There's a fine difference between playing and keeping one on their toes. The problem here is that too many exceed that fine line and instead they are playing with their partner.

It isn't funny, it's only painful and overly annoying after a while.

I have my best friend who happened to meet this kind of girl and I can see it only brings him grief and pain. But he is very much too in love to leave her...

Personally I'm somewhere in between. I don't play too hard to get but I don't jump everyone I meet either, haha. Though I like to keep people on their toes, I try not to do it often when we have reached a stable level in our relationship.

nicely written rackarns, i think that is the correct way to do it. keep things interresting but dont overdo it with the hard to get part :)

Don't make it too easy, at the same time don't try to play any circus games. No hoop jumping for me.

Women are odd creatures. I met this girl, and she played incredibly hard to get. I chased after her for a month, but shortly after decided enough was enough and I'd move on.

Amazingly she then took a shining to me .... 1 year on, We're still together. There is something to be said about playing hard to get.

Girls are like internet domain names, the ones I like are already taken!

Girls are like internet domain names, the ones I like are already taken!

Oh, hilarious!