A humorous (but true) look at why people say they are sorry. It's never too late to say sorry but sometimes sorry means nothing (if the actions don't match the words).
A humorous (but true) look at why people say they are sorry. It's never too late to say sorry but sometimes sorry means nothing (if the actions don't match the words).
A hot dog from Yankee Stadium. Potato latkes from the Four Seasons in Manhattan. Sirloin steak at Applebee's. The jumbo cheeseburger at the University of Iowa Hospital. While it would seem these menu items have nothing in common, they're all from Sysco, a Houston-based food wholesaler. This top food supplier serves nearly 400,000 American eating establishments, from fast-food joints like Wendy's, to five-star eating establishments like Robert Redford's Tree Room Restaurant, to mom-and-pop diners like the Chatterbox Drive-In, to ethnic restaurants like Meskerem Ethiopian restaurant. Even Gitmo dishes out food from Sysco. Should you worry that one source dominates so much of what you eat?
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I never took the magazine seriously. They have quizzes and advice which I suppose help some but for me it's like reading the book when I've already seen the movie.
Now I do know some females that aren't passionate or sexual and the men they are involved with do not bring it out in them. I also know women who are passionate but not enthused sexually by the men they are with and act out what they see in the magazines because that is what is expected.
Articles like this one cracks me up:
According to a study, there’s a love habit that’s crucial to the health of your union: focusing on each other’s good qualities. Of course, that’s easier said than done. It’s normal to see more of your guy’s flaws over time — the key is not letting them infringe on your affection. “If you can organize your thoughts around his strengths, you’ll concentrate on him as a whole instead of on his imperfections,” says study author John Holmes, PhD, professor of social psychology at the University of Waterloo. He found that couples who do this stay together longer.
Better idea - accept the person for who he/she is in the first place and the "flaws" will be part of the person - not something one has a desire to change.
Some women in countries where abortion is restricted are using the internet to buy medication enabling them to abort a pregnancy at home.
Setting goals seems to be such a simple process. You take a look at yourself, decide what you want to change most, think about how to get started, then do it. What is it that goes wrong?
Here are some thoughts about potential pitfalls. They don’t happen to everyone, but they are definitely common enough to be worth avoiding.
Although Google is rolling back its price increase slightly and is phasing in the higher price over five quarters, the outline of the original decision remains largely unchanged. At a T.G.I.F. in June, the Google co-founder Sergey Brin said he had no sympathy for the parents, and that he was tired of “Googlers” who felt entitled to perks like “bottled water and M&Ms,” according to several people in the meeting.
The newlywed rekindled a teen romance through long-distance phone calls.
No matter what problems you experienced growing up, you don’t have to repeat your parents' mistakes.
When I wrote my article about porn it brought people out of the woodwork. But let's keep it real, men talk about watching porn but they hid that they watch it. Thank the internet being able to download it privately.
I told a story on my blog about going to the movie rental place to get porn (I have no patience for boring porn). First, the management didn't want to let me in because I was female. I wasn't haven't that. When I went in there it was amusing to watch the guys shrink up in embarrassment yet would hang on every word I said when I was talking to my ex about what we should get.
A lot of women don't watch porn, especially if their bodies aren't the way they want it. Porn can draw a lot of insecurities in a woman. Having your man drool over another woman you can't come close to looking like (or sexually perform as well as) takes a thick skin. Many women feel as though they aren't sexually satisfying enough if their man needs an outside source.
If you've had one or two bad nights lately, you can probably solve the problem by taking some of the measures below. These strategies may require you to change your sleeping habits, but the effort is well worth it in the long run.
Five questions no man wants to hear in the first three months (whether he is crazy about you or not!).
It's funny how the biggest reason I wanted to start dating again was because of sex but that's the last thing I think about when I'm with her. Instead, we spend a lot of time just hanging out, talking, getting to know each other. I've told her a lot of things I've never been willing to tell anyone else.
You're forming a connection - that's cool. I wrote about connections on my site recently. The ones that come out of the blue, totally unexpected, are precious. When there is a strong connection you know there isn't anything to be afraid of (doesn't mean the person won't feel fear). Fear and insecurities are hard to overcome but they have to be in order for the relationship to progress. Letting people in can be hard at first. Scary actually.
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This has impacted my relationships with the people I've dated, my friends, and my family.
I realized in a conversation I had last night that this is what doomed me in past relationships...having to deal with what happened in the guys past. Most of my friends are male and I noticed they hide emotions and try to manage what the females in their life knows (I'm surrounded by that type of behavior). The problem is the female usually figures it out and it makes it 1000x worse if they try to hide (which ends up being a lie) something. It's almost insulting. Talking to someone that dumps thoughts at an unbelievable rate last night made me realize how many of the guys I know are the complete opposite. I tested it because it was so foreign to me. He talked about work pressures, insecurities, dreams, girls he liked, ones he flipped out over, what's going on in the internet (in his niche). In all those cases he had no problem talking about things that made him happy, hurt him, frustrated him, etc.
I pointed him to this note while we were talking and he said he lost a woman holding back. He never wanted to feel that type of pain again so now he tells it like it is to whoever he is talking to.
Not everyone is ready to handle the full brunt of what a person can feel. Not anger, frustration or every negative emotion that's out there.
That's true but when people hide the "important" things, that is cause for concern. Things they know will impact the other person they claim to care about. Of course some people can't take it but isn't that an indication of a mismatch in personalities?
People complicate things and take the empathy of what a person is feeling completely out of context, making the situation worse.
You said it much better than I did. I've experienced that where, once I found out what was really going on, I was truly puzzled how it got to that point.
I think it's just indicative of insecurity. Either not knowing each other well, or not communicating nearly well enough.
Communication is important. Amazing how people talk but not necessarily about the "important" things.
In my hood you don't show emotions unless you are wearing a skirt...or kilt.
The burbs can do that to you, yo.
I had to give you points for that one. I read that and cracked up laughing. :)
Nah with men something could be wrong or something might not be wrong.
With men it's always something, usually the over-active imagination that something is wrong and trying to figure out what he thinks that is. If the woman takes her cues from the guy it throws everything off. He's trying to figure what is wrong when nothing is wrong yet she knows something is wrong with him and there is - him thinking there is something wrong when there isn't.
And that felt so deja-vuish typing that.
No because when you say "nothing" we know there is something wrong. We can hide emotion and you not know anything. We can be crying inside and you wouldn't know so it isn't the same thing.
Actually let's kill that myth. Men could be crying inside and the woman knows it but she can't acknowledge it because:
1) She's not suppose to know.
2) If she asks he says he's fine.
3) Respecting his wishes.
If a woman has a connection with a man (or vice versa) she will know, without him saying a word, something is wrong. She'll sense it because of the connection they share. Seriously, how do guys know something is wrong? They sense it. Multiply that by 100 and that is how a woman knows something is wrong. Ironically that can cause a lot of problems because she'll know it, can't do anything about it, get frustrated and the minute the guy does something wrong (and it could be very minor) she pounces. It becomes worse because she can't talk about the thing she's not supposed to know about.
Nothing wrong with the woman crying with the man or possibly, if the guy said something maybe together they'd fix it so there would be no tears at all.
And vice versa with the woman saying "nothing".
Hell, most times women like to make up in their heads that something is wrong with us and we have to make up some emotion just to satsify their needs.
That is what women say about men, you know that right?
Looking at the current Ill Doctrine Jay was talking about men and their hesitancy in showing their emotions (starts about 40 seconds in). Jay says in this video:
We're all afraid to show emotion because we think it will make us more vulnerable. When in fact it is that very fear of showing our humanity that makes us most vulnerable in the long run. Because sooner or later this life will provide proof that you are human. And those who pretend to be something other than human are the ones that are most likely to look like a sucker when that day comes.
When men don't show emotion isn't it the same as when men call women out for saying "nothing" when something is wrong? When men don't show emotion they also avoid talking about whatever is bothering them - to ensure they don't show emotion. Just like men "know" when something is wrong when a woman says "nothing" a woman knows when something is wrong and the guy doesn't talk about it or worse doesn't show emotion when something is definitely wrong. In this video it was about expressing love for a male friend but it could be it could be anything: pain, frustration, anxiety, fear or even love for a female.
In the end, who are any of us fooling?
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When I posted the clip I thought of you. I get sleepy in the middle of the day (only if I eat and only if I'm at the computer). When I'm out and about I don't get sleepy. Not sure what the deal is with that.
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I'm in a position, financially, where I would be able to live without their financial support. The biggest issue was health insurance, but I have that through my job now.
That's the part I was concerned about based on what was going on in the past (that I knew of). Catching up on your blog, you seem to be doing much better than you were - and I am very glad to read that. :)
That said...you've thought this through thoroughly (it seems). I know what it is like to go against the grain of what a parent wants. My father used to call me rogue because I wouldn't do what he wanted (which would have been a disaster). What's the point of having a life if you're living it for someone else...not doing the things you want to do?
At this point in my life, with everything that has been going on, I just don't feel like I can really continue to grow, or be happy, living as someone else. I need to live my life for me now, as the person I am.
Honestly, I can't imagine what you go through trying to live two lives to keep the peace (for lack of another phrase). Everything seems to be coming together for you nicely. Perhaps this move is another piece of the puzzle that brings you one step closer to your goal. :)
Reading your words, I commend you for taking a stand. Life brings tough choices and hurdles to overcome. You've been given one tough hurdle to overcome and it seems like you are winning that battle. If you go through with this, could there be a setback in that area? My thoughts reading your words wasn't whether this was a battle that should be fought...but should be it fought right now?
You know how in an airplane when they give the safety precautions they say to put the oxygen mask on yourself then put it on your children? As tough as that is for a parent (the gut reaction is to place it on the child first) - the parent needs to be okay so he/she can properly attend to the child.
Once that other issue is resolved or stabilized then you'd have the strength/resources/insert-adjective-here to take on another battle and if the worst case scenario happened (your family turns completely against you) it seems like you would be in a better position to deal with it.
In the end I'm sure you'll make the decision that is best for you. :)
I don't know what to say. Speechless. I've never seen (or heard) of anything like that (and it's not a costume).
Unfortunately neighbors like this are in houses too. :(
That's what I thought - thanks. I realize that CA is inflated but wow, that's crazy. The one thing I guess is fair is that they give parents plenty of warning on the [ridiculous] increases.
If this is subsidized I'd hate to see what normal rates are. For an infant starting 10/08 they are going from $1574/mo to $2390/mo in 10/09. Gradually increasing over the year. For a preschool $1116/mo to $1710/mo in 10/09. The wait list registration fee is $250 per child vs. the previous $25 deposit. They talk about reimbursing the original $25 wait list fee but do not mention is the new $250 fee is refundable.
Wow, for an infant that's going from $18900/yr to $26,700/yr. For a preschool $13,400/yr to $20,500/yr. Good thing Google pays well.
Is this expensive or is this the norm? It's times like this I truly appreciate working from home.
Why is Google spending shareholder money on a perk that it is now so ashamed of that it doesn't market it to its potential recruits as a reason to work at Google?
When I lived in an apartment I had neighbors like this. Funny thing was that every guy ended up getting the same treatment. I'm not the type to keep kicking a guy out, it's like an empty threat and a waste of time. Women continue to baffle me.
Ever had neighbors like this? Every been in a relationship like this? :)
Couples have their fights, some are worse than others. Did it ever cross your mind that your neighbor might spoof your fight(s) and put a video up on YouTube?
My Mom is having too much fun talking about this Note. She brought up a good point: when a woman says she's not mad when she really is.
*Notice how I address it before a guy can bring it up.*
I can't talk for all women but all the women that I know that do this (myself included at times) is because you can't tell the guy you're mad and you just don't want to talk about it so it can blow over.
Because the guy freaks out.
So the woman tries to avoid him freaking out by saying she's not mad. Here is the key (at least for the women I know). The guy has been absolved from trouble when she says she's not mad. She just wants to chill, sort through it, cool off, etc. because she realizes talking about it at that time might make things worse.
Now I'm sure some women will come back and say the guy should have said something even though she said she wasn't mad. Dump those women. Seriously - damned if you do, damned if you don't.
My Mom is still laughing, making scenarios up about dealing with guys when the girl is mad. Gotta love it when she stops by.
If I was in a relationship like the one I would go insane. They are happily married (whatever works for them) but they scream a lot and argue a lot.
It also made it very clear how easy it is for the next woman to pay for what the previous woman did. If a guy had women like this in his past (and you're not like that) trying to convince a guy that you're not like that is an uphill battle you might not know you have to climb. I could imagine trying to convince a guy that was in a relationship like that:
Now I fully understand the bullshit I've gone through. I'm glad they are happy, they have a beautiful son who is adorable and I can't say enough I'm glad they are happy.
I'm not into screaming, hollering, and arguing. I guess I'm the minority because YouTube is filled with videos of couples like this and guys saying women are mad all the time.
And men prefer to be solo instead of getting in a bad marriage?
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» 10 Things You Don't Know About Men by Paul Scrivens ... Last Reply: 4 months ago by Tyme.
I think people tend to over-think things. Maybe I'm warped but it's simplistic to me. There are two basic ways a relationship develops:
1) Two people are attracted to each other from the beginning (like meeting at the club) and progress the relationship to intimacy without really knowing each other.
2) Two people meet, they get to know each other, realize there are romantic feels shared by the both of them, and act on those feelings, becoming a couple.
The first example has no foundation and this is where many relationships fall (IMO). What tends to happen is that the pair crossed the line into intimacy and THEN they tried to fill in the missing pieces, trying to make the other person fit the role of their desired mate. It’s like jumping out of a plane without a parachute and expecting to survive.
In the second example the two people know each other, started to love each other (perhaps without even realizing it) and the relationship started before the both of them addressed it because the connection slowly built over time. That's why "suddenly" the guy a woman has spent a considerable amount of time with becomes the sexiest most desirable guy on the planet or the woman a man has spent time with goes from cute to hot and he has to have her.
In the first example (IMO) this is where situations like Scrivs and Kami describe come into play. Try explaining to the woman who met her man at the club, slept with and became his girlfriend quickly that history won't repeat itself. Women can feel insecure when men watch porn especially if her body doesn't look like the porn women he watches. Many of the issues addressed are bred from insecurity, fear, etc. and that have legitimate beginnings.
The second situation avoids a lot of this. As friends getting to know each other and the feelings developed over time, the girl will know the guy went to the club 1000x during that time and still picked her...why feel threatened? The girl/guy at the office/school got to know each other, balanced their professional/personal roles (which is like a double slam dunk) so how can someone that is attractive compete with that? The guy watched countless porn movies and still picked her, why feel threatened?
But more important, in the first example because he/she doesn't really know the other person it is easier to abuse the power being vulnerable brings - and that is the situation Kami describes. That is when the manipulations enter the picture. That is where trust issues develop. In the second scenario there is a foundation, memories, feelings and trust. Just like you avoid hurting your best friends the guy/girl will not abuse the power opening yourself up to someone brings because the guy/girl has become the ultimate best friend.
To me, Cosmos is for the person that is involved in the first example of relationships. For the second example it’s already known there will be disagreements, pain, disappointment, etc. but together the two learned how to work through them naturally realizing that one might not like what a person does but he/she still loves the person for who they are inside – including the good, bad and the ugly.