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Favorite "American" Food?

annejmacaco — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:35:27

oh! and don't forget the sweet tea! =)

Favorite "American" Food?

annejmacaco — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:34:32

I know this is months later but I thought I'd add to the list.

Favorite meal:
roast beef
cornbread
fried okra
collar greens (with pepper sause)
creamed corn
black-eyed peas

and for dessert: pound cake

now I don't know if any of these are 'american' but it's what I grew up on and my parents grew up on.

and yes, I'm from the south =)
I'm from georiga =)

Quofda: Who was your best (or worst) elementary school teacher?

liza — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 02:18:59

Mr Allen was my 4th grade teacher and he was the first male teacher I had ever seen. He taught me to play chess and encouraged me to use my brains. He definitely left an impression on me. He also taught me that being a teacher could be a choice not just something for women.

Quofda: Who was your best (or worst) elementary school teacher?

auburn — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 17:45:16

My 2nd grade teacher, Mrs. Hawe, had the class wait in single line and very quiet outside the Staff Woman' Room while she ran in to remove her pantyhose. Then she led the class to a brook. We were instructed to remove sneakers and shoes. The boys rolled up their pants. She proceeded to teach us how to skip rocks and walk in the water to look closely at frogs.
That was 47 years ago. I have never looked at a brook or a frog the same way again.
The creativity and willingness to 'teach' in non-traditional ways makes her my favorite.

Lessons learned from Ike's extended weekend visit

fuscom — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 20:45:55

It's also equally important to know when to sit back, chillax, and let the process take it's course.

My dad had two huge oaks which line the boulevard behind his home crash through his back yard fence and damage his garage, as well. He called the city (they own these particular trees) and notified them, and they told him they would have people out to clean up the debris when they could.

Of course, my dad, wanting this huge forest of oak tree branches removed from his driveway, had some lawn guys take care of it. In doing so, he paid them money he'll probably never recover because he was impatient and didn't listen or follow what he was told to do.

My brother-in-law had a neighbor's tree damage part of his home after Hurricane Rita. I think they had to deal with property lines, and how much of the tree had fallen on the house...or something to that effect.

Lessons learned from Ike's extended weekend visit

fuscom — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:36:47

I'm glad you didn't have to go through anything like that.

And, honestly, I'm equally sorry that you had to. I was shocked to hear on the radio how Ike had merged (or something) with a front in the mid section of the US.

These things are life changers for anyone in their path, that's for sure. I do hope that you get some well deserved rest today.

Lessons learned from Ike's extended weekend visit

Gnorb — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 18:54:48

Technology cant build a community. Rather the lack of technology, electricity, groceries, telephones, cellphone connections, gas, homes, whole cities and glass in downtown skyscrapers builds communities

I learned this all too well during that year when Hurricane Wilma hit us. It was a just-barely 2 (as in "just under cat 3" just barely). Suddenly I met all my neighbors.

Certainly changed my view about a lot of things then.

Lessons learned from Ike's extended weekend visit

fuscom — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 18:50:03

Looters weren't a real likely threat [edit: for us]. We are fortunate to live in a nice area with a strong police presence. However, I guess when you're in a dark house with no power, and there's no lights on whatsoever outside -- the slightest unfamiliar noise starts messin' with your mind.

Lessons learned from Ike's extended weekend visit

fuscom — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 08:33:43

My family and I live about 60 miles inland from where Hurricane Ike crashed ashore. Being "only" a category 2 hurricane, we decided to ride it out and shelter-in-place as our city instructed us to. Besides, with a predicted 20' storm surge, folks from Galveston needed to be on the freeway getting out of the way more than we did.

Three days without power and other necessities of life (such as gas, milk and coffee) gives one a chance to reflect on some things. Here are some things which came to my mind.

Category 2 hurricanes which have a 600 mile windfield, do the damage of a category 4.
When you're in the midst of a roaring 600 mile windfield, after a few hours you pray it'll just end -- even if you're not a bit religious.
The terrified factor increases by 3 when a hurricane hits you in the hours you're usually asleep
The oh s* factor increases by 7 when this teeny category two hurricane knocks out ALL the power of the 4th largest city in the US, in the hours you're usually asleep
When the wind is howling close to 100 mph outside your home, and you hear things hitting your boarded up windows, and it's 3 am and pitch black outside, you can actually build up enough body heat from stress to spontaneously combust
Street lamps are really under appreciated in the feeling of security they provide
Hurricanes are a great way to shed 5 pounds in record time
Technology cant build a community. Rather the lack of technology, electricity, groceries, telephones, cellphone connections, gas, homes, whole cities and glass in downtown skyscrapers builds communities
When facebook and twitter and email and newsvine, and IM is down, newspapers and radio rule
When the things you take for granted are taken away, you celebrate like there's no tomorrow when they are restored
McDonalds is the best thing ever, after a couple of days of soggy peanut butter in a 92 degree home
It's good to get to know your neighbors, especially when your biggest fear is looters
The world hasn't changed. In fact, it reverts real quick back to the days of your grandparents and/or great grandparents when people depended on the radio as their primary news source and/or entertainment, and children played outside, and neighbors talked, and store owners only sold the necessities, and actually knew and shared their customers needs and desires
The people who'll tell you that empathy in business is a bad thing are dead wrong
It's good to live in a community that truly cares and takes the saying "neighbors being neighborly" seriously
You don't really need any more. In fact, you probably already have too much

To my friends and family in Galveston and SE Texas, and even in the midwest US, who's lives were radically changed by Hurricane Ike, Godspeed.

Help! I'm In Love With My Best Friend

auburn — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 02:25:26

I so strongly agree! Your friendship can be permanent and forever, lasting many decades. You will share your life and go through stages together. Love may not be so long or strong. Talk like suggested and do not sabotage your friendship.

possible?

liza — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 15:20:59

Hormones can sometimes bring on good results; don't knock them.

possible?

Jia — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 07:15:16

LoL!! its the hormones people!

i'll snap out of it soon.. dont worry.. this note was super random.

possible?

joshawesome — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:16:49

don't forget the ipod. she needs the ipod too.

possible?

RightOn — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 20:28:41

Chances are you will have to find a costume to disguise yourself as a swimming pool to catch his attention first. Then you can work on the courting :)

possible?

Scrivs — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 20:25:27

Anything is possible in the game of...psychotic stalking.

Help! I'm In Love With My Best Friend

joshawesome — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 20:58:50

I'll give you my story because it's a bit similar. And on the off-chance that my friends reads this, please pretend you didn't. :) kthanx.

I've been friends with this girl for half my life, literally. I was infatuated with her for the first few years. I wrote my first love letter to her (I was young and trying to be romantic) and I even wrote her a love poem. Yes, I gag now but at the time, I thought I was being suave or whatever. You know, like Rico minus the "ay" at the end.

We lost touch after high school. She had started dating this guy, we both got busy with college and life. Three years later we reconnected and picked up pretty much exactly where we left off before. She's still dating the same guy though, very much in love with him. She doesn't deny that there's something between us, but again, she's with another guy. I'm not saying I'm in love with her, but I've been in a constant state of falling for her and I haven't quite reached that point yet.

A couple years ago, we talked about our relationship. She's happy with her boyfriend, I'm happy that she's happy, however, it really sucks because I want to be with her but I can't. I've obviously dated other girls, but the truth is, if she were to ever say "Hey, let's date," I would probably throw everything else out the window.

The truth is though, that I wouldn't change anything about our relationship. We're great friends and when we get the time to talk to each other, we flirt yes, but nothing has really changed.

My advice to you, tell her how you feel. I wouldn't chase after her, or pursue her, just tell her how you feel. That's really all you can do. Anything more than that is a bit overboard at this point and might ruin the friendship that you have.

possible?

Jia — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 19:19:48

wow. i wonder if courting Michael Phelps is possible...

99% hormones. 1%sanity. =D

is you dont know who Michael Phelps is.. 3 words. what. the. hell.

Help! I'm In Love With My Best Friend

rossflyer — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 12:57:57

I need your help.

I'm in love with my best friend. Before I begin, yes, I know this sounds cliched (probably because it is) but it's giving me one hell of a time and I need the advice of people wiser than I am. Hear me out, please.

Sometime last year I became madly infuated with B. B was a really close friend to my best friend A. In fact, while I was probably A's best guy friend, B was closer than I am, for obvious reasons (like being female, for instance). Me falling for B sucked, because I didn't actually know her and didn't have any valid reason to like her. But there you go. Hormones can be strange things.

A helped me out throughout this time, while I was getting over my senseless infatuation for B. We became a lot more closer during this period than we did before, and I gradually came to like her instead.

It took me a very long time to build up my courage to tell her. I was, at that stage, more worried about saving the friendship than being together, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't want us to be more than friends. I presented my case as in a 'I like you, but it's getting in the way of this friendship and I just want you to know' way ... which actually worked. Our friendship survived that. We're still talking. In fact, I can still talk to her about my feelings for her, though it sounds awfully weird to do so. We joke about it and take it in good stride.

There's one problem, though. My best friend is in love with another guy. She told him, he admitted to the same feelings, but he didn't want to take anything to the second stage. I can't imagine why. The irony is that A liked me when I was so hung up over B, because (in her words): 'you were off the market for awhile, and I liked you because you were unattainable'. The guy she's in love with right now started off with her thinking he was in love with someone else, who turned out to be her. She liked him because she thought he was unattainable in the beginning.

Twisted, I know.

So here's my predicament. I'm in love with my best friend. Who's in love with another guy. Who isn't me. Who doesn't know her or understand her as well as I do. Who is probably God in her eyes right now.

And there's nothing I can do. Or is there? One part of me tells me I should give up and enjoy the friendship and suppress the feelings I have for her. And we interact. A lot. The other part of me is telling me to drop all and chase her. Go after her. Pursue with single-minded determination, even if she isn't interested, and is so in love with another guy.

What should I do? Please give me your thoughts. Thanks.

Strange/funny voicemail greetings

likeduh222 — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 19:56:44

my friend had this one:
"hello?.....hello?........ I can't hear you! Just leave a message with your phone number and name! Thanks!"

Dating: The Duds and The Awesome

Kamigoroshi — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:54:58

You don't. That's why you go out with them.

Then again, when chatting them up, you usually do get a feeling whether they work well with you or not. Your experience in having women talk about how the men they've dated are jerks and all that. I go through that with almost every single girl I chat up. Even if I'm not on a date, it happens.

I've deduced that this is due to the nature of how I portray myself to be. It's not that it's bad or anything and I've learned to just listen. I do get the idea that women do this on their own whim because they want someone to talk to who'd listen. If I can do that, then why not?

Going back to your problem. I guess it's a matter of one moment at a time. If you get along with the person today, go ahead at it the next day and so on so forth. Keep doing that until you hit a bump on the road. If it can be fix and you think it's worth fixing, then fix it. If not, regrettably take your leave and move on.

You can't figure whether you good with a person one day. The best you can do is understand what it is in yourself that requires you to look for in another person. The rest is about discovering it from there.

Dating: The Duds and The Awesome

Scrivs — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 09:06:31

I broke up with this girl because I didn't really have time to date.

Lost me a second there. But then you said this...

Besides that, we were just at completely different places in our lives and before our feelings grew stronger

That makes more sense.

Anyways to answer your question it's really simple. If you don't feel anything you don't even date the person. Otherwise you go for it, you don't know if they are a dud or not. You just do it if you have any feelnigs about them to see how it is. Your first girl was awesome then a dud you say, you just moved on.

Everyone wastes their time trying to figure out if someone asks them when you can just ask them usually. Most times if you have to figure it out then they don't from my experience. Make a move and if they respond accordingly you are good to go. Problem is everyone fears rejection or making a fool of themselves so nothing happens.

Dating: The Duds and The Awesome

joshawesome — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 04:45:24

I'm not sure if I've really posted anything about how I broke up with the girl I was dating, but that was awhile ago. She was awesome. Now, she's a dud. Let me explain what's been going on lately.

I broke up with this girl because I didn't really have time to date. I had just started a new job and I was working overtime and barely had time to eat and sleep on top of working. Besides that, we were just at completely different places in our lives and before our feelings grew stronger, I decided we just needed to break it off. We remained friends and would talk once in awhile, I would hang out with her during cookouts and the like. Things were fine.

I meet internet crush girl. She lives in NYC, I am moving there, so it seemed like a natural thing that I would want to meet people in NYC. I post an ad on craigslist for friends, internet crush girl responds. Now, I'm not ready to jump into anything, but I'm definitely interested in her.

One night, I go to a friends house for a cookout, the ex is there, she asks me out. I just happen to be texting internet crush girl. I don't want to date her. I like her but I've had time to realize what I want and what I don't want in a person and out of a relationship. On top of that, I'm leaving. I say that I can't and she asks me why, I tell her, stupidly, that I've started to see someone else. I later come clean about this but at the time she assumed that I was texting the person I was "dating".

Fast forward: After trying to figure out if internet crush girl is into me at all (she is) I decide that I want to ask her out. Problem: We live eight hours apart so dating, at this point in time, is out of the question.

My friends have been trying to set me up with a girl, one in particular. I go to open mic night with my friends and this girl. She gets plastered, I play a song, she is clingy all night, says how I'm a nice guy, how she usually dates assholes, and wants me to come back to her place. Um, no thank you. I mean, I only spent about two hours with her and she wants to take me back to her place? Please. I'm easy, but not that easy. (That's really a lie)

So, technically that wasn't a date. This past Friday, I go out with some friends. At the first bar we go to I meet hot bartender girl. I'm not initially attracted to her because she's hot but because she's wearing a High School Musical t-shirt. Somehow she gets my number and texts me the next day. We chat over the weekend and then Monday while at work I decide to ask her if she wants to grab dinner with me. This is not a date, but a "date".

I hurry home after work, grab my cell, wash my hair again, and get to her place to pick her up. I'm five minutes early. I wait for 30 minutes while she gets ready. That annoys me. We go to dinner. She insists on telling me how she dates assholes and how all her past boyfriends have been jerks.

Observations

People around here are not normal. All they do is talk about how many jerks they've dated and how they wish they could meet a guy they could settle down with. Um, dude. It's not even really a date so why are you telling me this?
I've tried dating people I meet in real life before and none of them ever stuck. The only people I've had, relative, success dating are the people I meet online.

So my question. How do I decide, before I ask someone out, if they are a dud or if they are awesome? I don't know if you realize, but I'm horrible, I mean really horrible, at figuring out girls. It took me almost two months to figure out internet crush girl liked me.

Little Girl Gets Disneyland Surprise

liza — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:17:07

I have always loved how kids react to Disney parks. Oh, to be that innocent again.

Little Girl Gets Disneyland Surprise

Mike — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 17:27:43

This is really cute and made me laugh. They must live pretty close to Disneyland else they had to keep the secret while driving for many hours with a bewildered child in the backseat.

Cosmo's Most Creative Sex Positions Ever

estarla — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 00:51:14

I've never read Cosmo much. It always read like nonsense whenever I'd try. To me it's like music interviews, when they interview bands and ask them, "What is rock 'n roll?"

And it's not ever anything you can just quantify in just words. You have to listen to it, feel it and understand it over time to really know the answer. And then if you try to describe it in words, it takes all the meaning out of it.

Quizzes and stuff that diagnose what you should do in one of only two or three situations that could ever occur in life just take all the fun out of life, and usually make you end up worse off. Ugh.

Crazy WNBA fight - L.A. Sparks vs Detroit Shock

Scrivs — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 21:58:47

Question becomes: If more fights were in the WNBA would you watch it more? Me? Not really.

Cosmo's Most Creative Sex Positions Ever

Scrivs — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 05:50:35

@cooper: Yeah, she was a fun girl. I'll miss her.

Cosmo's Most Creative Sex Positions Ever

cooper — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 05:11:29

Do people still read that piece of garbage?

Oh right, my roommate in college did, the roommate who slept with a new guy every few weeks.

10 Things You Don't Know About Men by Paul Scrivens

Tyme — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 18:50:40

So maybe it's not intentional guilt which would piss a lot of us off, but our inability to handle emotions that way that plays us right into women's hands.

I think people tend to over-think things. Maybe I'm warped but it's simplistic to me. There are two basic ways a relationship develops:

1) Two people are attracted to each other from the beginning (like meeting at the club) and progress the relationship to intimacy without really knowing each other.

2) Two people meet, they get to know each other, realize there are romantic feels shared by the both of them, and act on those feelings, becoming a couple.

The first example has no foundation and this is where many relationships fall (IMO). What tends to happen is that the pair crossed the line into intimacy and THEN they tried to fill in the missing pieces, trying to make the other person fit the role of their desired mate. It’s like jumping out of a plane without a parachute and expecting to survive.

In the second example the two people know each other, started to love each other (perhaps without even realizing it) and the relationship started before the both of them addressed it because the connection slowly built over time. That's why "suddenly" the guy a woman has spent a considerable amount of time with becomes the sexiest most desirable guy on the planet or the woman a man has spent time with goes from cute to hot and he has to have her.

In the first example (IMO) this is where situations like Scrivs and Kami describe come into play. Try explaining to the woman who met her man at the club, slept with and became his girlfriend quickly that history won't repeat itself. Women can feel insecure when men watch porn especially if her body doesn't look like the porn women he watches. Many of the issues addressed are bred from insecurity, fear, etc. and that have legitimate beginnings.

The second situation avoids a lot of this. As friends getting to know each other and the feelings developed over time, the girl will know the guy went to the club 1000x during that time and still picked her...why feel threatened? The girl/guy at the office/school got to know each other, balanced their professional/personal roles (which is like a double slam dunk) so how can someone that is attractive compete with that? The guy watched countless porn movies and still picked her, why feel threatened?

But more important, in the first example because he/she doesn't really know the other person it is easier to abuse the power being vulnerable brings - and that is the situation Kami describes. That is when the manipulations enter the picture. That is where trust issues develop. In the second scenario there is a foundation, memories, feelings and trust. Just like you avoid hurting your best friends the guy/girl will not abuse the power opening yourself up to someone brings because the guy/girl has become the ultimate best friend.

To me, Cosmos is for the person that is involved in the first example of relationships. For the second example it’s already known there will be disagreements, pain, disappointment, etc. but together the two learned how to work through them naturally realizing that one might not like what a person does but he/she still loves the person for who they are inside – including the good, bad and the ugly.

10 Things You Don't Know About Men by Paul Scrivens

Kamigoroshi — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 12:25:00

I don't know if guilt is too strong a word but I've always used it (the word, not the action, well...not really).

The way I see it, most men don't want to see a woman be all emotional and would go to great lengths not to see them throw a hissy fit or cry. A lot of actions I've noticed especially in relationships between men and women, hinge on that, from getting to know them to breaking up even. It's like a pathological fear of seeing an emotional women. I think I've mentioned this before on some note somewhere.

So maybe it's not intentional guilt which would piss a lot of us off, but our inability to handle emotions that way that plays us right into women's hands.

10 Things You Don't Know About Men by Paul Scrivens

Scrivs — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 10:02:49

I don't know man, you make me feel guilty that just ends up pissing me off. I don't play the guilt game...at all. You use it on me, I just turn it around tenfold back on you.

10 Things You Don't Know About Men by Paul Scrivens

Kamigoroshi — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 08:12:10

You know, this list can be narrowed down to something I tell all women who say they don't get men. Men are driven by two things that take precedence in their lives.

1. Sex.
2. Guilt

Control that and you control almost every man there is. :)

Cosmo's Most Creative Sex Positions Ever

Kamigoroshi — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 05:12:49

Wait a minute, doesn't magazines like this prey on the insecurity of the normal female? That tells you a lot about the people who read it seriously. Though in defense of some of the people who read it, I know people who read it just to laugh at it. Some times, it's just hilarious what they come up with.

When you think of it that way, it isn't so surprising isn't it?

Cosmo's Most Creative Sex Positions Ever

Tyme — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 01:42:10

I never took the magazine seriously. They have quizzes and advice which I suppose help some but for me it's like reading the book when I've already seen the movie.

Now I do know some females that aren't passionate or sexual and the men they are involved with do not bring it out in them. I also know women who are passionate but not enthused sexually by the men they are with and act out what they see in the magazines because that is what is expected.

Articles like this one cracks me up:

According to a study, there’s a love habit that’s crucial to the health of your union: focusing on each other’s good qualities. Of course, that’s easier said than done. It’s normal to see more of your guy’s flaws over time — the key is not letting them infringe on your affection. “If you can organize your thoughts around his strengths, you’ll concentrate on him as a whole instead of on his imperfections,” says study author John Holmes, PhD, professor of social psychology at the University of Waterloo. He found that couples who do this stay together longer.

Better idea - accept the person for who he/she is in the first place and the "flaws" will be part of the person - not something one has a desire to change.

10 Things You Don't Know About Men by Paul Scrivens

estarla — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 00:57:09

Well, you know... points are points. :D (Thanks RightOn!)